Let’s get this out of the way: yes, squirting is real, and no, it’s not just something made up by porn. But if you’re still unsure what it actually is — or how it even happens — you’re not alone.
The topic is full of myths, half-truths, and some very messy misconceptions (pun intended). So here’s a breakdown of what squirting really is, how to explore it with a partner, and why it’s not about performance but pleasure.
So, what is squirting exactly?
According to Wikipedia, squirting — or female ejaculation — is the expulsion of fluid from the urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm.
It’s different from regular vaginal lubrication, and yes, it often feels like peeing. But science shows the two are not exactly the same. The fluid may include traces of urine, but it’s primarily a product of the Skene’s glands (aka the female prostate).
According to Medical News Today, studies using ultrasounds confirmed that fluid is stored in the bladder, but its release is triggered by G-spot stimulation.
Is squirting the same as peeing?
This is where people get confused. Technically, the fluid comes from the bladder, but the process is different. Think of it more like an orgasm-triggered release.
A 2014 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine confirmed that during squirting, the bladder fills and empties rapidly — but it happens in response to sexual stimulation, not a full bladder.
So yes, it’s real. And no, it’s not just someone losing bladder control.
How does it happen?
In most cases, it involves G-spot stimulation, intense arousal, and complete relaxation. Pressure builds up — and when released — a burst of fluid follows. It doesn’t happen to everyone, and that’s completely fine.
Here’s how people commonly describe what leads to it:
- Targeted G-spot stimulation (just inside the front vaginal wall)
- Adding in clitoral stimulation for combo pleasure
- Using firm, repetitive pressure (think “come here” motion)
- Deep relaxation and no shame if it gets wet
Tips if you’re exploring squirting (without being weird about it)
- Talk first. Don’t try to “make her squirt” like it’s a trick. Ask if she’s curious.
- Use a towel. No, seriously. Be prepared.
- Go slow. Some pressure is good, but comfort matters more.
- Watch her reaction. Don’t be goal-obsessed.
- Tell her it’s okay to let go. This helps a lot of women relax enough to allow it to happen.
Healthline notes that emotional comfort, physical safety, and enthusiastic consent are often more important than technique when exploring female ejaculation.
Not all women squirt — and that’s okay
Just like orgasms, everyone’s experience is different. Some women squirt easily. Others never do, and still have amazing sex lives.
Trying to force it can ruin the mood, so don’t treat it like a checkbox or achievement. It’s just one part of the sexual menu — not the whole meal.
According to Bustle, around 10–50% of women have experienced squirting at least once, but many find it difficult to repeat.
TL;DR – Squirting 101
- It’s a real, natural phenomenon involving female ejaculation
- Usually triggered by G-spot stimulation
- Fluid is stored in the bladder but triggered by sexual pleasure
- Not every woman squirts — and that’s perfectly normal
- Communication, relaxation, and consent are key
So if you’re curious, talk about it. If you want to explore it, do it with respect and curiosity. And if it happens? Celebrate the hell out of it.
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