Let’s get this straight from the start: sex positivity isn’t about being down for a threesome on a Tuesday (unless that’s your thing — no judgement).
When I first heard the phrase “sex positive,” I imagined something between a Burning Man tent and a feminist podcast. Turns out, it’s neither — or both, depending on who you ask.
At its core, sex positivity is about respect, consent, and freedom from shame. It’s about treating sexual expression as something natural and valid — not taboo.
So… what is sex positivity, really?
According to Wikipedia, sex positivity is “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy.” In other words, if it’s between consenting adults and nobody’s getting hurt (unless they want to be), it’s all good.
It’s not a new concept — it evolved in the 1960s during the sexual revolution and has gained momentum thanks to the internet, therapy culture, and a whole lot of dating app trauma.
It’s not about having more sex. It’s about having better sex.
Or no sex at all, if that’s what feels right for you.
The whole point is choice. Whether you’re celibate, pansexual, into rope play, or just trying to enjoy missionary without guilt — sex positivity says: you’re valid.
As DatingAdvice.com puts it, “being sex-positive means being open to learning about your body, your desires, and your boundaries.” It’s more than a label — it’s a lifestyle of curiosity and acceptance.
Why it matters in 2025
Let’s face it: the internet made porn easier to access than mental health services. We’ve all been hit with a weird TikTok or dated someone who couldn’t name a single emotion.
That’s where sex positivity comes in.
- It normalises consent and communication.
- It destigmatises female pleasure (finally).
- It encourages LGBTQ+ inclusion and understanding.
- It makes dating less… terrifying.
CNET covered how sex positivity impacts mental health by allowing people to explore their identity without shame. And in a world still reeling from toxic masculinity, purity culture, and relationship ghosting — that’s a big deal.
But isn’t it just for liberals, poly people, or sex bloggers?
Nope.
Sex positivity isn’t about your politics or your body count. It’s about creating space where people feel safe to talk, experiment, say no, say yes, or say “maybe later.”
Even the New York Post wrote about how Gen Z and Millennials are redefining relationships through a more open, communicative approach to intimacy.
Sex positive ≠ sex pushy
Here’s the key: you don’t have to be sexually active to be sex positive.
You can be:
- A virgin and sex positive
- In a monogamous marriage and sex positive
- A dom with a safe word and sex positive
- Ace and totally uninterested… and still sex positive
It’s about respecting all expressions of sexuality, not pushing one lifestyle over another.
How to bring sex positivity into your life (without becoming a walking Kama Sutra)
- Talk openly about what you want (or don’t want).
- Practice real consent — enthusiastic and ongoing.
- Ditch the shame — whether it’s body, kink, or experience level.
- Stay curious — it’s OK to explore new ideas, even if you don’t act on them.
- Use protection and get tested — safety is sexy.
TL;DR — What is sex positivity?
It’s not about being hypersexual.
It’s not about judging others.
It is about:
- Communication
- Consent
- Freedom from shame
- Respect for all identities and preferences
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