Okay, let’s talk about the kind of self-care they don’t teach in school: oral sex. Not just the fun, cheeky stuff — we’re diving into how it can actually be a legit way to relieve stress.
No, this isn’t just some “guy logic” excuse. There’s real research, real science, and real experiences behind the claim that giving (and receiving) oral sex can boost mood, lower anxiety, and improve overall well-being.
So… can oral sex really reduce stress?
Short answer: Yes.
Long answer: When you engage in any kind of sexual activity — oral included — your body releases feel-good chemicals like oxytocin, dopamine, and endorphins. These are your natural stress-busters.
According to Wikipedia, sexual activity, particularly orgasms, can help reduce stress levels by stimulating the release of endorphins and lowering cortisol — the stress hormone.
And oral sex doesn’t just benefit the receiver. Giving oral sex, when it’s consensual and pleasurable for both people, can also foster intimacy and a sense of connection that melts stress away.
Healthline notes that the emotional bond created through oral intimacy can improve relationship satisfaction and mental well-being, especially when it’s combined with communication and trust.
Real talk: Why it works better than a spa day
Let’s compare. A 60-minute massage might relax your muscles. But 15 minutes of focused oral sex (especially when it ends in an orgasm) can:
- Release dopamine, improving your mood
- Reduce cortisol and physical tension
- Make you feel desired, which boosts self-esteem
- Help you sleep better afterwards
Honestly, that’s more effective than aromatherapy.
A study published in the Biological Psychology journal found that people who had sex (including oral) experienced lower blood pressure responses to stress afterwards.
Giving oral = receiving peace of mind?
We don’t talk about this enough, but giving pleasure can be as relaxing as getting it — especially when you enjoy the power, the connection, or the feeling of making your partner lose their mind (in a good way).
It creates emotional feedback: you focus, connect, give, and in turn feel valued and needed.
For many couples, this kind of closeness is way more grounding than small talk or Netflix binges. It’s mindful. It’s intimate. It’s present.
Want to use it as stress relief? Here’s the vibe:
- Talk about it. Nothing kills the mood like confusion or pressure.
- Set the scene. Lights low. Phones away. Be fully there.
- No pressure to finish. The point isn’t orgasm — it’s pleasure and connection.
- Stay playful. Laughing during sex is a good sign.
- Mutual pleasure = deeper relaxation. Take turns. Or don’t.
According to Verywell Mind, sexual intimacy can act as a natural stress management tool, especially when paired with emotional trust.
It’s not a magic fix — but it’s a damn good one
Of course, oral sex won’t replace therapy or yoga or journaling. But if you and your partner are looking for a way to connect, feel good, and shut the world out for a little while?
It might just be the best stress reliever you’re not using enough.
So next time someone says, “Babe, I’ve had a stressful day,” maybe don’t recommend a bubble bath.
Just saying.
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